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CHILD CARE Children are a gift from God, and we all celebrate when born. However, they do not arrive with a parenting manual. As a consequence, parents meander through parenting roles by trial and error. In olden days, a new parent had many willing experienced helping hands at their disposal. For example, parents, grandmothers, aunties were only a stone throw away from their hut and were available. In contrast, modern parents are most likely to be isolated from such help and have to do with what they assume they know. Those who try to fill in the gap by surfing the internet or books for information on parenting may find the information complicated and impractical. Babies arrive in this world in all manner, shades, shape and sizes and therefore cannot be fixed in one box. They have their unique characteristics, needs and preferences. On the other hand, parents too have their personalities, needs and expectations. Therefore, because of these factors, parenting becomes an intricate dance between parents and their children. It is up to the parent to make the dance as smooth as possible because she/he is in charge. Parenting can be easy and rewarding if parents learn to balance the need for safety, care, control and intellectual stimulation as described below: – Safety Children need protection from accidents, for example, by not leaving them unsupervised and also by cultivating the patience that is needed for parenting young children. Therefore, preventing accidental injuries or child abuse. Care Children need food, shelter, a healthy emotional relationship with their parents, empathy, understanding and emotional support. Without such care, a variety of emotional difficulties may arise. Control Children need clear rules and limits: – parents need to provide supervision to ensure that children conform to these expectations. For example, offering appropriate rewards and sanctions for rule-following and rule violation to meet the need for control. Behaviour or conduct problems may occur if such measures are not developed. Intellectual stimulation Parent-child play and communication help meet the need for intellectual stimulation. This healthy interaction helps to avoid developmental delays in; psycho-motor, adaptive, emotional, language and intellectual development. In many occasions, parents fail to stimulate their children due to the following reasons: – 1. Distractions (Phones, T.V programmes, carrying office or business work home and so on.) 2. Getting impatient with the child’s talk and endless questions 3. The assumption that the child is too young to hold friendly and intelligent conversations and arguments. In our African culture, talking to an infant and expecting it to understand and respond is rarely practised. Recent research conducted in Nairobi by Kariuki et al. showed that infants who were talked to by their caregivers from birth to 6 months had a higher I.Q. and communication scores compared to infants who were parented “in the usual way.” 4. Relying too much on house-helps 5. Laziness 6. Ignorance 7. Exhaustion from work 8. The child not meeting the parent’s expectation Parents who seek professional advice often find it useful to receive objective feedback on how they are doing as parents.

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How to Make Children Own the Their Homework

Homework is one of the area that create untold frustration to both children and parents.  On one hand, children make excuses, resist, and avoid doing their homework. While on the other hand, parents remind, persuade, threaten, scold and throw tantrums to have them do it. This drama is unnecessary and not productive Homework allows children to practice at home what…

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CHILD EATING PROBLEMS

Eating is one of the greatest pleasures of life for living things including humans. However, this natural process can go wrong to become a source of agony to some children and their parents. Research has shown that 25% to 40% of babies and toddlers are reported by their parents to have feeding problems which include: – colic, vomiting, slow feeding,…

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Child Clinical Psychologist

Child Clinical Psychologist

I am Esther Kariuki. I am a consultant Clinical Psychologist working in Nairobi. Having worked with people for over thirty years, I feel like I’ am busting at the seams with the knowledge and experience that I have accumulated over time. I am particularly interested in sharing effective ways of parenting and child development because this is where most mistakes…

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Welcome to Talanta Lab

Welcome to Talanta Lab

We are a consulting practice dedicated to providing the highest quality scientifically proven methods to meet our clients’ needs. We are dedicated to supporting the social, physical, intellectual, creative, emotional and developmental growth of our clients. Services are provided by highly qualified and experienced psychologists and health personnel who are committed and make the growth and well-being of their clients…

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